The Inner Guide to the Biggest Loser Season 9 Episode 17
Michaels Story, He’s Just A Loser!
No, of course I don’t mean that, I love Michael and have deep respect for his courage. Letting the world really see him on the inside, with all his fears and doubts is remarkable.
What I mean and what is so critical that everyone understands is even though Michael’s has made huge strides and is miles from where he was, it only took him seconds to obliterate all of it.
In the blink of an eye he is back to his self hating, angry, depressed and I’m not good enough loser story. Why, you might ask? It’s familiar; it’s how he’s known himself for 30 years.
If there is one thing that will guarantee all of us an express ticket to failure it is sticking with our old stories. I lost 100 lbs 7 times in my life only to gain it back plus a few more. I eventually ballooned to over 400lbs by sticking to my old tired story. I now sustain a healthy weight range not by being diet/food obsessive but by creating and believing a new story.
Becoming healthy and slim is not about the food, it is about your story, what you say to yourself. Look at one of your slim and healthy friends; could they be anything other than slim and healthy? I don’t think so, unless something happens where they change their story from slim and healthy.
So what can you do if you get stuck back in your old story? Good question as I spend more time working with my clients on this than anything else. As a Master Practitioner of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) I have a tool chest of various options to help anchor and reframe people back into a their positive/motivated new stories.
However, one of the best ways to keep yourself from sliding back into your old stories is with what I call an accountability partner. An accountability partner can be a friend, however a friend with strict guidelines. You need someone that no matter where you are emotionally will be honest and forthright. You do not want someone that just goes along and agrees with you. Great examples of how empowering this can be were shown in the interactions between Bob and Michael.
Did you notice Michael got no sympathy from Bob. Bob refused to swallow any of Michael’s old stories. He knows Michael, what he is capable of and stood up for the new Michael even when Michael could not.
That’s the kind of powerful relationship that keeps you focused and gets you back on course should your old story pop out its ugly head.
This week’s I challenge is to proactively look for an accountability partner. It can be a coach, counselor, friend, or just an acquaintance that is also on the road to a healthier life. Just remember, you want someone that won’t just say nice things to you, but believes in you.
All the best,
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