Are you waiting for the confetti to fall?
The reveals after the makeovers were absolutely stunning. I watched tonight with my daughter and we were both blown away by how far everyone has come! Especially with the new hairdos on Daris and Mike.
As I have said before I really admire the creativity and intelligence of the producers of The Biggest Loser. It is one thing to create an entertaining show and quite another to do so in such a caring, intelligent way. Taking time to create a ceremony for the contestants to really experience and celebrate their accomplishments is so incredibly healthy and affirming.
If you are looking for another powerful secret to keeping the weight off, this is it…. celebrate your successes, even the small ones.
I loved one of the things Sam said to Koli after he got voted off. “It’s not about feeling good about yourself when the confetti’s falling. You do not need “confetti”, or to be on a TV show to acknowledge how special and wonderful you are.”
In our “do and do more” society, we are constantly challenged in our jobs, businesses, and families. Just to get through a day we are overcoming obstacles and reaching goals one after another. However, mostly these accomplishments go unnoticed (especially by ourselves). We just shove them under the rug, give them little notice and go on to the next thing, then the next, the next………
One of the tools I used to lose 170lbs and keep it off for 6 years is to celebrate successes every day. You do not need to wait until you hit some huge milestone; or even more common, wait for others to acknowledge you (what I would call waiting for the confetti to fall). It is a skill that needs to be practiced at whatever level you are at and one of the tactics I teach my clients. Do not make the same mistake so many others make, thinking that once you reach your goal weight then you can have some pride in yourself. The time to acknowledge and celebrate yourself is now!
Here are a few ideas that work really well. Start a success journal. It does not have to be elaborate or take much time. Just every day make it a rule that before your head touches the pillow you have to write 3 -5 things that you are proud about that you accomplished, for example:
I walked for 15 minutes
I kept to my food plan at dinner
I walked away from the donuts at the office
I spoke to my daughter about a difficult issue
I said “no, sorry” when Joe asked me for a favour
That’s it, short and sweet.
I actually have a white board next to my desk, every day I write down 3 – 5 accomplishments. In the morning I wipe it clean and start again.
If you’re not used to celebrating or congratulating yourself another way that is fun and gets the family involved is to setup a little ceremony at dinner. Before eating everyone has to list 3 things that they accomplished and feel good about in the day. You might feel a bit awkward at first, but it’s a great way to celebrating yourself and also learning more about what is going on with your family. If you have young children they really love the game.
This week I challenge you to be proactive and celebrate your successes every day. Do not wait for someone else to shower you with confetti, sprinkle it on yourself. Be that winner today!
All the best,