Well, we’re off to a new season and I have a feeling this is going to be one of the best. First, as we have seen in the past when the contestants come to the ranch as couples, we have established relationships with people caring about each other. There is a pressure built in that keeps each team member pushing and supporting the other. It’s one thing to not support a stranger and quite another to not support your partner. Second, we have a very interesting cast with new trainers, an Olympic medalist, and a super obese person. I am really looking forward to the season.
We had a few excellent points in this week’s episode that qualify for “Inner Game” status. What I mean is that they were “aha” moments or ideas that hit on very important concepts needed to maintain a lifelong healthy weight.
Probably the most important point in the show was when Bob was talking to Arthur. Just as we heard Arthur start doing a number on himself about how much weight he had to lose, Bob stepped in and said “you cannot afford to think about the end game. You can only be concerned about what you can do today.”
First, I do not believe that we ever reach an end. This is one of the biggest lies we are taught and want to believe. If I lose x amount of pounds, I will be totally together, my life will be great and I will live happily ever after. Complete bull and a setup for failure if you believe it. The only time you will be at the end and done is when you are six feet under. Sorry to be crude but in anything we want to accomplish in life, not just weight loss, it takes consistency, attention and effort.
If you talk to anyone in the 5% club, the ones that have actually sustained a healthy weight for over 5 years, they will all say the same thing. It requires daily attention, not perfection, but attention. If you are new to my blog, I lost over 170 lbs and have kept it off for over 8 years. To be this successful required a shift in mindset and persistence. The Biggest Loser is just another tool that keeps me clear about the choices I make.
Now more on Bob’s point to Arthur. Bob was working on a very important principle of motivation. In Arthur’s mind, he feels like he is climbing Mount Everest when he can barely walk around the block. Why even start when the task is so daunting?
However, do you see the real problem? The real problem is asking yourself the wrong questions! The question that I had to ask myself when I weighed over 400 lbs was can I eat healthy today and can I walk ½ block to the park today? That was it, nothing else! Can I and am I willing to do those 2 things. Plus can I make an agreement to ask myself that same question tomorrow.
You know that saying, “Ask a silly question and you will get a silly answer”? Well when you try to motivate yourself this could not be truer.
Here’s a question for you: how did you ever get through school? I mean that took years, didn’t it? Did you wake every day starting in first grade going “oh no…. 12 more years to go! Think about physicians that can spend another 10 years in school after high school. If they kept the Mount Everest analogy in mind, they would probably never succeed either. In psychology, the motivational concept is called “chucking down”: we take a big issue and find a way to make it smaller, into a manageable size snack (yes a food pun). Bob’s response was so right on, Arthur cannot afford to project the future anymore than anyone on a long project.
So right now you have just about finished this article. My challenge to you is what can you do right now, or for today that will put you one step closer to where you want to be. What is one simple healthy thing you can feel accomplished about? Now do it and feel good about it. That is where your mind needs to focus.
All the best,